Are you the one who asks "what if"?

Are you that person who jumps in to take the risk, only because you fear that if you don't, then you will always regret missing out on a great experience?

Are you the friend who is constantly on the go, without time to hang out because you have too much on your plate?

Do your dreams feel so big that you actually fear them?

Do you find yourself pondering your future, often wondering if you are doing enough to reach your life goals?

Yeah, I basically just described myself.

My name is Darcy and I have FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). 

You too?

If so, this post is for you.

Obviously, having goals and dreams isn't bad.

It's good to take risks and live life to the fullest.

Hmm... the fullest, what does that even mean?

When is 'the fullest' actually at its ... fullest? 

Will the richness of life ever reach its maximum capacity? 

If so, how do we know when we've attained it?

If we are living in constant FOMO, then we will always feel like there is something more that we are missing.

We will live in fear that every decision we make may alter the course of our future, eventually causing us to live a mundane life, leaving us without any adventurous stories to tell our grandchildren.

We will choose to leave our comfort zone and refuse to hold back from anything that sounds like a chance to learn, grow, and check off our bucket lists.

There are pros and cons to living this way.

Of course, climbing toward the top is great.

Being ambitious is great.

Gaining new experiences is great.

But when does it end?

If we have FOMO, then there is no "top".

It will just keep going and going.

The fear of missing out on anything will continue forever.

There will always be something more, or something else to miss out on. 

So, when is it time to stop?

When is life at its fullest, and how do we know?

Well, for starters, I realized I had a FOMO problem when I looked back on my life.

You see, I've done a lot of random, adventurous things in an effort to live as much life as I could in a short amount of time.

This has taught me a lot but it has also put me in some very stressful situations.

Then I realized, in reality, it really isn't about the amount of things we do in our lives, but rather the quality of what we do.

Of course the choices we make will shape our future, but we can't expect to know which decisions will give us the best life because we cannot see what tomorrow holds.

In fact, God has withheld that knowledge from us for a reason.

"He has made everything beautiful in its time. Also, he has put eternity into man’s heart, yet so that he cannot find out what God has done from the beginning to the end." Ecclesiastes 3:11 ESV

Why does he withhold it, you ask? Trust me, I wish I knew because it sure would be nice to know the future sometimes.

But, like I said, He has His reasons.

Ultimately, if we are making sensible decisions based on Biblical truth, and going where we feel God is leading us, then we will not be out of God's Will. 

Yes, we should be listening to His direction, but we shouldn't put so much weight on every single choice. 

God allows us to make our own decisions and He knows our hearts. 

We just need to think, pray, and act on what seems like the best route. 

One decision made in prayer, with a heart to do what is right, cannot go wrong. 

If we are seeking God, He will place us, and guide us on the path that will provide all of our needs. 

His provision will be on our side, and we will have the fullness of life in Christ. 

There is no need to be afraid of missing out on God's purpose, if we are following Him and living in obedience to His calling on our lives. 

So we all should remember these five things when we are experiencing FOMO:

1. Slow down - You don't have to stop being ambitious, just slow it down sometimes. If we are constantly on the go, searching for the next best thing, then we won't do the best with what is front of us and, in fact, that is when we truly do miss out. God wants us to be in his presence and be still with Him, more than He wants us to do all of "the things". Experiences are great, but let's make sure we are experiencing them with Jesus close to us. 

2. Be grateful - If we are thinking about missing out, then we are forgetting what we already have. The fear of missing something greater, will overpower our gratefulness for the wonderful things we already have. 

3. Live in the present - Anxiety is the fear of what lies ahead. It is a response to the worrisome thoughts of the unknown. FOMO can be a form of anxiety. It can force us to live in the future, without even noticing the present. Let's live in the now, and choose not to miss what is happening in the current moment. 

4. Spend time with Jesus - Any time spent with Jesus, is time well spent. We never have to fear that time with Him is wasted. He should be with us at all times throughout our day. The fullness of life is found in Him. If we are seeking fulfillment in different experiences, then we miss the whole point of life. Jesus IS the experience. Experiencing Him IS life. There is fullness of joy in His presence and when He is with us, we will never be missing out. When He is by our side, we are living in our greatest potential and pursuing the greatest adventure of all, no matter where we are. 

5. Have no regrets - We need to be content with the life we have already lived. Anxiety is fear of the future but regret is fear of the past. It comes when we begin to feel like our past is filled with failures and mistakes. Then, when we begin to allow ourselves to regret the past, it will automatically cause us to be worried about the future, in fear that we'll mess up again. The truth is, God has our entire lives planned in advance and Jesus died so that our past failures could be covered. So thankfully, we can now walk in freedom knowing that no matter what sins we committed in the past or what mistakes we will make in the future, there is no reason to fear that we will miss out on His blessings. That's what grace is for. 

Again, FOMO is something I struggle with, so I am writing this for myself as well. Learning to settle fear will be an ongoing process but these are some verses we can all speak over ourselves when we are feeling anxious about the future:

"That according to the riches of his glory he may grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God." (Ephesians 3:16-19 ESV)

"The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full." - Jesus (John 10:10 NIV)

"You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore." (Psalm 16:11 ESV)

She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. (Proverbs 31:25 NLT)

Always Love,



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